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Minimalism? maybe?


As much as I love categorizing literally everything, my defining and boxing expertise deeply lacks when it comes to my own personal style. Which is like, super lame. What's more fun than defining and boxing yourself??

When I was a very very young(er) blogger human this kinda stressed me out. My style was not just a singular Thing: one day I would be super girly and wear exclusively baby pink, and the next I would dress like an evil psychopath goth schoolgirl (probably induced from too many viewings of Heathers). I loved grunge and over-the-top maximalism, but I also loved 90's minimalism, too (I still drool over the iconic Corinne Day shoot with Kate Moss). I worshipped Alexander McQueen's beautiful, creative, in-your-face silhouettes and loved Calvin Klein's clean-cut lines. You see my problem.

Now I'm more okay to not be defined at all. Most of the time when people ask, I say my style is "very feminine", "weird and unexpected" or "chameleon-ish". If anyone in the audience of 1.45 people have a good definition of my overall style, I'm all ears. Until then, I guess I'll keep trying out all my favorite categories of style—I would say these pictured above specifically lean towards "minimalism", but who knows. Tomorrow I'll probably be a maximalist again and wear 3 skirts over a pair of pants. Boom. Fa-shun.

Dream dress by Helmut Lang. Socks from Amazon, shoes are vintage.

All photos shot by me with my Canon D600 and an 18-135mm lens.

How to repurpose your prom dress

Ahh, prom. The pubescent mating ritual that millions of beautiful, makeupped youths partake in every year has been and forever will be one of my favorite bits of The American Experience™. Not because I actually had a lot of fun at my proms—yes, proms, I went multiple times—but because it's really just one of those things that is so distinct to being a high schooler in America. Maybe this is just me, desperately grasping at an "American culture" that doesn't really exist outside of cheeseburgers and institutionalized racism, but hey! I still think prom is funny, and it makes wonderful fodder for poignant short stories about the loss of innocence or whatever. I looked forward to prom SO much before I got into high school, mostly because I was really hoping it would be as magical and Gunne Sax-filled as the prom scene in The Virgin Suicides. In fact, it was not. They didn't play "Come Sail Away", not even once, and Kirsten Dunst wasn't there (I think). I'm still glad I went.

Another prom szn has come and gone, and looking at all my younger relatives being shipped off in their limos to have one of the most stereotypical high school experiences of all time is making me NOSTALGIC! And also it makes me want to WEAR PROM DRESSES AGAIN! Yes, they inevitably still smell like teen dreamz and college rejection letters and maybe some vomit from the after party, but they can 100% be worn again in a non-prom context. How? Watch and learn.

1. Wear it over jeans à la Molly Goddard

Every day when I wake up, I ask myself the same question: WWMGD? (What Would Molly Goddard Do?) The answer is she would cover everything in tulle and pink and pretty flounces, and wear it unabashedly over normal clothes. So I strive to do the same, goddamnit!

2. Wear it over your work clothes and confuse the shit out of your boss

Mixing womenswear and menswear is always so fun and I do it a lot. I especially love the idea that someone would show up to work in normal Office Clothes but then have their prom dress on WITH the Office Clothes!! And like, yeah, maybe this isn't the most plausible way to repurpose a prom dress. But whatever. Do it anyways. You probably won't get fired. Probably.

3. Put a turtleneck under it and wear it to da club

Fun fact, I bought this bag specifically to wear into clubs, because it is basically drunk-proof, i.e. it snaps shut AND it has a zipper. So my stuff can't fall out, no matter how much I'm dancing. No I-party-too-much-and-have-an-irreconcilably-cracked-iPhone for me! Nope!!

But yeah, a lot of people's prom dresses are easy to dress down, too, especially if it's a really simple sheath one (like the one below). If it's too long, you can always take it to a seamstress and get it hemmed so it can be worn to more casual events.

4. Wear it to another formal event, for fuck's sake

I know this is making it look like I just ran out of ideas by the end of the shoot, but uh, hello! Prom dresses CAN be worn to other events! They're formal dresses! And thank god, there are more formal events in a lifetime besides for prom. We can all stop pretending that we have bottomless bank accounts and just wear. The same. Thing. Twice.

Look 1: Vintage prom dress, vintage shirt, Madewell jeans, vintage heels.
Look 2: Vintage coat and shirt, vintage dress, Topshop pants, Coach heels.
Look 3: Vintage dress, Zara heels and bag.
Look 4: Vintage dress and bag, Céline heels.

All photos shot by me with my Canon D600 and an 18-135mm lens.

Turn Off Your TV!


Wearing cute things in summer is hard because I dislike being sweaty and fashionable at the same time. Mostly when I'm having a casual day of reading and drinking iced coffee (my ultimate summer goal), I wear basically the most skimpy and floaty thing possible, because I just cannot be bothered to try and look all weird and funky.

This is where very key things like bright colored one-pieces or body suits come in handy, along with sheer floaty dresses. I look cool but I only have 1.5 items of clothing on!! What a concept. And wearing brightly colored lipstick as eyeshadow is never a bad idea, either.

Also this swimsuit is definitely about 2x too small for me but they only had this size left. And it looks real good on me.

Swimsuit is ASOS, dress is vintage, jewelry is vintage, sandals are Tevas.

Photos shot by me with my Canon D600 and an 18-135mm lens.

lumps and bumps


Silhouette—that sneaky bastard—has always been a huge factor in how I dress myself, as well as how I see myself. It's funny to think that such a simple thing as a shape, the shape of your human body, can affect your life so profoundly.

Recently I've become very conscious of my clothing decisions. I asked myself a simple question: why do I dress like this? Why have I decided to put these particular pieces of cloth onto my body? I observed how I love to change and warp my own shape, not just adorn my body and make it look beautiful, but actually play dress up with form: adding layers and textures, hiding my legs under billowing fabrics, blurring my waistline, becoming formless. For me (and many other women), this is an easy escape from the pressures of that all-important Society, dictating who we are. Namely, we are just a body, and that body is the only asset we have. (Influence from my binge-watching The Handmaid's Tale is palpable here.) We must be sexually appealing Or Else. Our bodies must look like one very specific type of body Or Else. We must dress to please the man Or Else. Et cetera.

Ultimately I can't change the body that I'm in, and I can't un-hear Society's constant blaring on the loudspeaker, no matter how many times I try to block it out. But I can take control over my silhouette and change it briefly—whether with a long tulle skirt, or an oversized dress, or with a popcorn shirt purchased from Salvation Army (pictured above). I've always wanted to push the envelope with dress and form, challenge the traditional woman's silhouette and smash it to pieces. I think I first learned this from none other but Rei Kawakubo, who is basically like my fashion mom. I don't remember the exact moment that I first saw pictures of her 1997 Body Meets Dress, Dress Meets Body collection, but it's been in the forefront of my dealings with shape and silhouette ever since.

I guess I feel as if I have to explain to people (and myself) why I dress this way. After all, it's more difficult to do, and it can lead to awkward questions, i.e. "why do you love wearing ugly clothes" or "why can't you just dress normally". But dressing myself is very deeply tied to my emotional state, my insecurities, and my beliefs. Covering my body and changing the shape of it—wearing things that do not fit into the category of "traditionally attractive"—is my own personal form of rebellion. Because I own my body; this silhouette is mine. I can do whatever I want with it, regardless of what anyone thinks. 
Shirt from Salvation Army, pants are vintage, purse is vintage Coach (gifted to me by my aunt), shoes are Doc Marten's.

Comme des Garçons photos from Vogue. All other photos shot by me with my Canon D600 and an 18-135mm lens.

My sustainable fashion shopping guide


(me wearing all thrifted/vintage clothes standing next to my mostly thrifted/vintage closet!)

This is a post I'm really excited about writing!! And it's about time, too, since I began trying to do a more ~sustainable fashion lifestyle~ almost a year ago. But I guess right now, with more changes in my personal life—namely, becoming 100% vegan and wanting to commit to a more complete, zero-waste lifestyle—I've started to care a lot about sustainable fashun too. I mean, I've always cared about sustainable fashun, but now I wanna walk the walk and not just talk the talk!!

So, you might be like, wait wait, why should I care about sustainable fashion?
WELL. Here are the basics.

If you care about the environment and the impact humans have on it: this is probably not shocking to anyone reading this, but the fashion industry harms the environment! A lot! How much, you might ask? Well here, here, and here you can read up on the amount of pollution that is generated by the production of clothes and leather goods. And yikes, it's not pretty.

If you care about people earning a living wage and working in safe conditions: fashion companies do not have the best track record for treating their employees well. Like, not even a little bit. Garment workers are generally women and children, and they definitely do not deserve to die horrible deaths just to make shitty Forever 21 shirts (1,140 died in the Rana Plaza Disaster in 2013!!!). Some other informative links on sweatshops, child labor and the likes: Labour Behind the Label , Fashion Revolution, Child labour in the fashion supply chain, and International Labor Rights Forum.

Okay, now that I've filled your link-clicking quotas for the day, I want to give you my guidelines for how I try to shop as sustainably as possible.

(The caveat here, of course, is that these are guidelines. A lot of times with activism, people transform simple lifestyle changes into very steep scary cliffs that you must jump off of against your will—i.e., You Must NEVER Buy Fast Fashion Again, And If You Do You're A Horrible Soulless Person Who Loooves Sweatshops. I don't believe this, and neither should you. The point is making small changes, medium-sized changes, or even big changes if you're up for that. As long as there's some change, I see that as an accomplishment. Because duh, I buy fast fashion shit too sometimes, and I'm the hypocritical asshole writing this post about sustainability! No one's perfect. But if we're moving in the right direction, cutting out fast fashion little by little, there can be real progress made. Sermon over.)

I know that this post is about shopping, but hey! We don't always need to shop. Let me direct you to a handy pyramid that I found on the internet:

So basically, before you go out to buy shit, look around! Does it need to be bought? Do you already have an item of clothing that's basically the exact same thing that you want to buy? (I am totally guilty of this.) Then you don't need to buy it! Wild concept. Very hard to implement. But possible, totally possible.

Following the pyramid up, here are some other tips for sustainable shopping.

1. Clothing swap with ur friends

This is ye olde sustainable fashion tip that is always repeated by everyone, but like, I might as well add it. I've never done a clothing swap before but it sounds cute, and I would totally make hypothetical vegan scones for my hypothetical clothing swap.

2. Go to some fucking thrift stores

Do it. DO IT. Thrift stores are the best because of these reasons:

a) They are hella cheap (a slap in the face to anyone who thinks living sustainably is "more expensive")
b) They have really cool original rare shit that will make your wardrobe super unique! No more going to parties and showing up in the same basic ass Urban t-shirt dress like everyone else! Be a special snowflake!
c) Sometimes you can find name brand stuff and feel all superior because you only paid like $3 for a fancy item of clothing. (My friends have found pieces from Comme des Garçons and Margiela for dirt cheap at thrift stores!)
d) Buying from a thrift store = recycling clothes!! Which means no production of new clothes!! Which means WAY less pollution, WAY less wasted materials, and no money goes to big evil companies who don't pay their workers properly!!!

When I go thrifting, I usually don't have any extremely specific item of clothing in mind that I'm looking for because that's pretty hard to find in thrift stores. It's best to browse in sections you know you enjoy (I usually make a beeline to the pajama/slip section) and always keep an eye out for colors, textures and silhouettes that stand out to you.

3. Buy used things online

This is the solution to wanting an extremely specific item of clothing. People resell popular clothes all the time so you don't have to be the last chump without the fancy Nikes or whatever. The bonuses are that they're usually cheaper than retail price, and if you really like a company's clothes but hate the company's ethical decisions, you can just get their stuff secondhand and not compromise your morals!

My favorite online resellers are:
Depop (I have a depop!! Hello!! Buy my clothes!!!)
& there are a helluva lot besides that. Search around, you can find almost anything secondhand online!

4. Support small/local companies that produce their clothing in an ethical way

I feel really lucky to be a pseudo-grown up during a huge uprising of ethical and sustainable brands. Seriously, there are SO many. When I first got into the fashion industry as a young teen, all I wanted was to see strong, empowered women taking care of themselves and the environment! And now I can! It's truly a dream come true.

Here are just some random smaller brands that I found, but keep in mind these are the tip of the iceberg:

Altar - ethically made in the U.S. and wonderfully size-inclusive
Only Child - so pretty and simple, made out of low-waste fabrics
Looptworks - made from excess materials in Portland
Reif Haus - sooooo pretty
Lauren Winter
Colico - sustainable shoes!! So nice if you're like me and have a weird shoe size that makes it impossible to get thrifted shoes
Elizabeth Suzann
The Far Woods - this isn't really a "clothing store" per say, but they make The™ cutest posters, zines and patches. Follow them on Instagram too!

Also for the hell of it, here are some of my favorite ethical bloggers:
Tolly Dolly Fashion
Conscious by Chloé
Style Bee
Seasons and Salt
Mama Eats Plants (this blog is more focused food and cooking, but it also has really great low-waste lifestyle tips)

So that about sums up my sustainable shopping guide. If you have any other tips or brands you think I should check out, comment them! Or talk to me on Instagram! Or something! Now go out and save the environment, motherfuckers!!

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